Life management basics

How to agree and disagree

HOW TO AGREE 

1 Genuinely seek to find points of agreement in wha

the other person is saying

2 There is no contribution if you simply agree with

everything

3 To disagree at every point is irritating and boring.

4 Being argumentative is not at all beautiful. There are

better methods of exploring a subject.

5 There is no need to be right

all the time. Remove

your ego from the discussion and focus instead on

the subject matter.

6 Make a real effort to see where the other person is

coming from. Explore that person's logic bubble'

7 See if there are any circumstances in which the other

person's views might be right. Spell out such

circumstances and show your agreement under those

circumstances

8 See if there are any special values which might make

the other person's view valid. Show that under those

values you would agree. But also have your own

opinion.

9 Acknowledge the value of someone's special

experience and treat this as a strong possibility but

not necessarily complete.

10 Reject a sweeping generalisation but see whether

you agree with any of the implications or any aspect

of the generalisation

HOW TO DISAGREE 

l Do not disagree for the sake of disagreeing

2 Do not disagree just to show how clever you are or

to boost your ego

3 When you disagree, do so politely and gently rather

than rudely and aggressively.

4 You may need to disagree to point out that a fact or

statement is simply wrong

5 You may need to point out errors of logic or to show

that a conclusion does not necessarily follow from

what went before

6 You may need to point out selective perception and

particular interpretations of statistics or events

7 here emotions, prejudices and stereotypes appear

to be used, you may want to indicate this

8 You may want to disagree to show a different

personal experience

9 most always you will want to challenge sweeping

generalisations

10 You will want to challenge conclusions based on

extreme extrapolations into the future

11 It is very important to challenge "certainty" and to

suggest possibility" instead

12 Distinguish between having a different opinion and

disagreeing with an opinion

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