Top 10 Secrets of Personal Magnetism
By Hamilton Miller/ Author of Elite Social Control
PTC's and Magnetic Statements are essential for mental domination, but they need the support of the Magnetic Moves.
The Magnetic Moves give it the final touch. Others may overlook many drawbacks you have, but not your failure to perform the Magnetic Moves.
These sweep everybody off their feet. It is obvious how tremendous they must be for mental domination.
The Magnetic Moves are easy to learn. Even people with below average intelligence can study them, apply them with little trouble, and gain phenomenally from them.
With these, women with ordinary minds and looks have won choice husbands. Men of inferior birth have become the associates of presidents, kings, and queens. Nothing will make you more welcome anywhere. With these moves, con artists have pulled off amazing frauds, and men have been elevated to positions of affluence over men with far more ability.
How the Magnetic Moves Affect Others
The Magnetic Moves disarm the other person, lower his defenses, and throw him into rapport with you. If he is your superior, he favors you because he can't help himself. If he has to reprimand you, the words choke in his throat.
With the Moves you appear as if you harbor no evil in you. That alone usually stifles resistance against you. The Moves may be called The Great Disarmer, the great neutralizer of hostile feelings against you.
There are 10 Secrets of the Magnetic Moves
Secret 1: The Non-Analytical Look
When about to be introduced to anyone, show no shyness or unwillingness. Show respect and admiration for the person, instead, by envisioning him nobly and respectfully. Overlook everything detracting about him.
Completely ignore Bob's lesser height, irregular features, unsymmetrical figure, poor clothes, uneven teeth, poor dental work, missing limb, prominent mole, ugly scar – in fact, anything and everything about him which does not add to his appearance. Stay neutral and establish instant rapport with him.
If he believes you are not aware of his imperfections, he might conclude that you are not observant. But he will relax with you, and you need that for mental domination.
Nobody enjoys the psychoanalytical look when it is directed at him. It is an antisocial look and arouses resentment. It may be pardonable in a doctor because he has to diagnose, but in everyday life people prefer to hide their deficiencies.
Stare only at Bob's eyes to suggest to him that he has captured your full attention. That banishes the rest of him from view and stops you from studying him.
Secret 2: Drawing the Other Person Out of His Shell
After expressing your pleasure in meeting Bob, flatter him with a Magnetic Statement. But don't usurp the conversation after that, unless he is tongue-tied or the silent type. Induce him to do most of the talking, particularly about himself, and give him your undivided attention.
You can't do this for long because it grows boring. But do it long enough to establish complete rapport between you and him.
Secret 3: Subtle Probing
As stated in a previous section, don't embarrass the other person with intimate questions. Praise something about him and let him elaborate on it if he is so inclined.
If you praise him for possessing broad shoulders, he might scoff and "admit" that he acquired them from playing sports in college. At once, exhibit interest in his education and ask him what college he attended. You would soon discover what he studied. From that you can guess his occupation – even his probable income.
Secret 4: How to Take Graceful Departures From People
Don't abruptly march off from a person you are conversing with. Say to Bob, first, "Will you excuse me? I'm late already. Good meeting you. See you again." If another group has already gathered around him and has eclipsed you, withdraw inconspicuously.
Secret 5: Retain Your Equanimity
Never give vent to rage or anger in social company. Slight or humiliate no one, even if he is unpleasant. Don't be a social sadist. Don't wound people's feelings.
Don't hit back by embarrassing others for slights, either actual or imagined, which you suffered at their hands. Revenge thinking, besides, changes your general demeanor to the unfriendly.
Secret 6: Show a Democratic Attitude Towards OthersAt work especially, look down on no one in a subordinate position, even if he belongs to another department. Some day, he might be able to do you a big favor and save you a lot of hassle. An antisocial attitude, besides, gets talked about; and, once you are known for bad manners, people expect the worst of you and act aloof towards you.
Secret 7: Don't Brag
Don't brag about your income, as if your co-workers were paupers. If you are a woman, don't brag about your beauty. If others don't notice how attractive you are, forget it – there are others who will.
Secret 8: Be – Or Pretend to Be – a Good Listener
Don't adopt a know-it-all attitude. Appear always ready to listen. Don't pass for a simple-minded idiot who believes anything he is told; but don't act stubborn, nor as if impossible to influence either. People want you to listen to what they have to say. Don't turn your head when the other person presents his side of the question.
Even if he is misinformed, don't insult him by being rude. If he is long-winded, interrupt him with something he likes to hear about and then abruptly change the subject. If that is not easy to do at the time, turn pleasantly to someone else and ask for his or her opinion of the matter. Never start a quarrel with a person who is monopolizing the conversation.
Secret 9: Retain an Impartial Attitude
Don't turn, tongue in your cheek, to someone beside you and mutter sarcastically about the person who is monopolizing the conversation. It puts your listener in an embarrassing position. You compel him to take sides, and that is not sociable, even if he secretly agrees with you.
Refrain from all personal discussion. Mention nothing to your companion about his own private life, character, or ability to reason. Confine yourself to the subject being discussed and raise no controversial issue that could lead to a heated argument. Arguments incite people and curtail your power to influence them.
Secret 10: Reply to People with Words, Not Gestures
No mannerism antagonizes people more, nor labels you with a supercilious attitude sooner, than to reply to their statements with nods or shakes of the head. They wonder if you view them as animals or slaves. No slave would answer his master with nods or shakes of the head, but many a master might reply to his slave like that. So, don't insult others by replying to them with gestures instead of words, unless they are insufferable, and you wish to drive them away from you. Reply in words, even with “yes” or “no”, or you will lose your mental domination over others fast.
Secret 11: Don't Push Your Way In and Take Over the Stage
Don't swagger up to people who are conversing and, with a booming voice, take over the stage. To those of sensitivity and refinement, such behavior is enraging.
The Magnetic Moves give it the final touch. Others may overlook many drawbacks you have, but not your failure to perform the Magnetic Moves.
These sweep everybody off their feet. It is obvious how tremendous they must be for mental domination.
The Magnetic Moves are easy to learn. Even people with below average intelligence can study them, apply them with little trouble, and gain phenomenally from them.
With these, women with ordinary minds and looks have won choice husbands. Men of inferior birth have become the associates of presidents, kings, and queens. Nothing will make you more welcome anywhere. With these moves, con artists have pulled off amazing frauds, and men have been elevated to positions of affluence over men with far more ability.
How the Magnetic Moves Affect Others
The Magnetic Moves disarm the other person, lower his defenses, and throw him into rapport with you. If he is your superior, he favors you because he can't help himself. If he has to reprimand you, the words choke in his throat.
With the Moves you appear as if you harbor no evil in you. That alone usually stifles resistance against you. The Moves may be called The Great Disarmer, the great neutralizer of hostile feelings against you.
There are 10 Secrets of the Magnetic Moves
Secret 1: The Non-Analytical Look
When about to be introduced to anyone, show no shyness or unwillingness. Show respect and admiration for the person, instead, by envisioning him nobly and respectfully. Overlook everything detracting about him.
Completely ignore Bob's lesser height, irregular features, unsymmetrical figure, poor clothes, uneven teeth, poor dental work, missing limb, prominent mole, ugly scar – in fact, anything and everything about him which does not add to his appearance. Stay neutral and establish instant rapport with him.
If he believes you are not aware of his imperfections, he might conclude that you are not observant. But he will relax with you, and you need that for mental domination.
Nobody enjoys the psychoanalytical look when it is directed at him. It is an antisocial look and arouses resentment. It may be pardonable in a doctor because he has to diagnose, but in everyday life people prefer to hide their deficiencies.
Stare only at Bob's eyes to suggest to him that he has captured your full attention. That banishes the rest of him from view and stops you from studying him.
Secret 2: Drawing the Other Person Out of His Shell
After expressing your pleasure in meeting Bob, flatter him with a Magnetic Statement. But don't usurp the conversation after that, unless he is tongue-tied or the silent type. Induce him to do most of the talking, particularly about himself, and give him your undivided attention.
You can't do this for long because it grows boring. But do it long enough to establish complete rapport between you and him.
Secret 3: Subtle Probing
As stated in a previous section, don't embarrass the other person with intimate questions. Praise something about him and let him elaborate on it if he is so inclined.
If you praise him for possessing broad shoulders, he might scoff and "admit" that he acquired them from playing sports in college. At once, exhibit interest in his education and ask him what college he attended. You would soon discover what he studied. From that you can guess his occupation – even his probable income.
Secret 4: How to Take Graceful Departures From People
Don't abruptly march off from a person you are conversing with. Say to Bob, first, "Will you excuse me? I'm late already. Good meeting you. See you again." If another group has already gathered around him and has eclipsed you, withdraw inconspicuously.
Secret 5: Retain Your Equanimity
Never give vent to rage or anger in social company. Slight or humiliate no one, even if he is unpleasant. Don't be a social sadist. Don't wound people's feelings.
Don't hit back by embarrassing others for slights, either actual or imagined, which you suffered at their hands. Revenge thinking, besides, changes your general demeanor to the unfriendly.
Secret 6: Show a Democratic Attitude Towards OthersAt work especially, look down on no one in a subordinate position, even if he belongs to another department. Some day, he might be able to do you a big favor and save you a lot of hassle. An antisocial attitude, besides, gets talked about; and, once you are known for bad manners, people expect the worst of you and act aloof towards you.
Secret 7: Don't Brag
Don't brag about your income, as if your co-workers were paupers. If you are a woman, don't brag about your beauty. If others don't notice how attractive you are, forget it – there are others who will.
Secret 8: Be – Or Pretend to Be – a Good Listener
Don't adopt a know-it-all attitude. Appear always ready to listen. Don't pass for a simple-minded idiot who believes anything he is told; but don't act stubborn, nor as if impossible to influence either. People want you to listen to what they have to say. Don't turn your head when the other person presents his side of the question.
Even if he is misinformed, don't insult him by being rude. If he is long-winded, interrupt him with something he likes to hear about and then abruptly change the subject. If that is not easy to do at the time, turn pleasantly to someone else and ask for his or her opinion of the matter. Never start a quarrel with a person who is monopolizing the conversation.
Secret 9: Retain an Impartial Attitude
Don't turn, tongue in your cheek, to someone beside you and mutter sarcastically about the person who is monopolizing the conversation. It puts your listener in an embarrassing position. You compel him to take sides, and that is not sociable, even if he secretly agrees with you.
Refrain from all personal discussion. Mention nothing to your companion about his own private life, character, or ability to reason. Confine yourself to the subject being discussed and raise no controversial issue that could lead to a heated argument. Arguments incite people and curtail your power to influence them.
Secret 10: Reply to People with Words, Not Gestures
No mannerism antagonizes people more, nor labels you with a supercilious attitude sooner, than to reply to their statements with nods or shakes of the head. They wonder if you view them as animals or slaves. No slave would answer his master with nods or shakes of the head, but many a master might reply to his slave like that. So, don't insult others by replying to them with gestures instead of words, unless they are insufferable, and you wish to drive them away from you. Reply in words, even with “yes” or “no”, or you will lose your mental domination over others fast.
Secret 11: Don't Push Your Way In and Take Over the Stage
Don't swagger up to people who are conversing and, with a booming voice, take over the stage. To those of sensitivity and refinement, such behavior is enraging.
How to Develop a Magnetic Mind
By Hamilton Miller/ Author of Elite Social Control
The most important step in dominating others mentally is developing your magnetic mind. It is paramount that you follow everything in this section closely.
In order to acquire the magnetic mind, you must eliminate, with prejudice:
In order to acquire the magnetic mind, you must eliminate, with prejudice:
- Doubt and fear of your ability to please others
- All antagonisms towards other people
- Your eagerness to get the best of others
- Feelings of superiority over anyone
- Thoughts of yourself as the only person that
matters - Desire to rule or oppress others
- All urges to impress others
Of course, the rules above do not mean that you should act like some nobody that is merely being tolerated by others. Envy no one anything he has, but don’t agonize over the fact that you have no more yourself. If Bob or Amy is taller or better looking than you, rid your mind of those comparisons.
Hostile thoughts that you secretly hold against others will show on your face no matter how hard you attempt to hide them. Even if you manage to hide them from your face they will creep into your voice and your general demeanor. Bob or Amy will feel a strange, unexplainable vibe in the atmosphere around you and will be repelled by it.
Another important step in the development of the Magnetic Mind is freeing you from worry. If you are you will be affected by the unfriendly thoughts and actions of those who dislike you… and a major portion of what you perceive to by unfriendly will be a misperception on your part.
None of us has the time to spend the better part of our lives dealing with these psychological issues in the standard way, so we have to develop a way to block them immediately. Don’t wait until you are constantly worrying about a negative influence to put an end to it.
Block it out of your mind the minute you sense it disturbing you. Don’t dodge the issue by thinking about something else, because that can push the already existing "mind poison" deeper into your brain. When you feel the "gnawing" feeling oppressing you following a misunderstanding with someone, stop all introspective thoughts in your mind at once before the “mind poison” buries itself in your brain.
Con Artistry
You can still dislike a person and fool them about your feelings towards them. The con artist does this all the time. He does it by maintaining a conversation with the victim that prevents the victim from listening to warnings from his subconscious. In this way, the con artist prevents the victim from responding to his "hunches".
Think of your hunches as impressions from your subconscious, warning you about people and situations. When the con artist leaves he takes his aura with him, the victim loses contact with him and does not smarten up even though his natural feelings are telling him to.
The victim’s mind, in addition, is left with swirling thoughts of the false visual and auditory impressions it received from the con artist and is now shut tightly against all logic concerning the matter. His imagination builds up the crook as a demigod.
The con artist, to summarize, concealed his true opinion of the victim through a running commentary of words and an endless barrage of wit and clever flattery.
Aside from the darker aspects of this “art”, the con artist’s strategy requires an extraordinary amount of quick, natural wit. Any error on his part will cause the whole thing to be exposed, or at least arouse too much suspicion for the con artist to overcome. This strategy is hardly worth the risk involved.
The Proper Way to Ignore Fools
With the Magnetic Mind, you have nothing to fear from other people, and no need to conceal anything from them. If the other person is in a bad mood and dislikes you for whatever reason, even after you have tried to win them over, stop wasting your time.
Another important step in the development of the Magnetic Mind is freeing you from worry. If you are you will be affected by the unfriendly thoughts and actions of those who dislike you… and a major portion of what you perceive to by unfriendly will be a misperception on your part.
None of us has the time to spend the better part of our lives dealing with these psychological issues in the standard way, so we have to develop a way to block them immediately. Don’t wait until you are constantly worrying about a negative influence to put an end to it.
Block it out of your mind the minute you sense it disturbing you. Don’t dodge the issue by thinking about something else, because that can push the already existing "mind poison" deeper into your brain. When you feel the "gnawing" feeling oppressing you following a misunderstanding with someone, stop all introspective thoughts in your mind at once before the “mind poison” buries itself in your brain.
Con Artistry
You can still dislike a person and fool them about your feelings towards them. The con artist does this all the time. He does it by maintaining a conversation with the victim that prevents the victim from listening to warnings from his subconscious. In this way, the con artist prevents the victim from responding to his "hunches".
Think of your hunches as impressions from your subconscious, warning you about people and situations. When the con artist leaves he takes his aura with him, the victim loses contact with him and does not smarten up even though his natural feelings are telling him to.
The victim’s mind, in addition, is left with swirling thoughts of the false visual and auditory impressions it received from the con artist and is now shut tightly against all logic concerning the matter. His imagination builds up the crook as a demigod.
The con artist, to summarize, concealed his true opinion of the victim through a running commentary of words and an endless barrage of wit and clever flattery.
Aside from the darker aspects of this “art”, the con artist’s strategy requires an extraordinary amount of quick, natural wit. Any error on his part will cause the whole thing to be exposed, or at least arouse too much suspicion for the con artist to overcome. This strategy is hardly worth the risk involved.
The Proper Way to Ignore Fools
With the Magnetic Mind, you have nothing to fear from other people, and no need to conceal anything from them. If the other person is in a bad mood and dislikes you for whatever reason, even after you have tried to win them over, stop wasting your time.
An astounding number of people respond to the Magnetic Mind. Ignore the small amount that either can’t be or are too difficult to be influenced. But don’t waste your energy angering them so you have to avoid them in the future. Don’t waste your mental power regularly in situations like that.
If you are ever ignored after attempting to use the Magnetic Mind, when you see the person in the future ignore them as you would a piece of debris in the street.
Don’t drain yourself of mental vitality as you approach him and end up regretting the encounter for the rest of the day. These types of people are hopeless. They antagonize others and receive their negative thoughts in return. If you adopt a bitter attitude towards him, it will subconsciously creep into your dealings with others, and you will lose your magnetism with them.
The Magnetic Mind and Self-Consciousness
The Magnetic Mind destroys self-consciousness. You are self-conscious when you doubt your ability to please or control others. You are not self-conscious when you are alone with a pet that you don’t worry about pleasing.
When self-conscious, you not only waste your mind power in needless worry about your ability to please others, but you also can’t put your best foot forward with them. There are understanding people who can still like you if you are self-conscious once they know you well, but if you associate with them only now and then, they could misinterpret your self-consciousness and regard you as selfish and arrogant.
The Magnetic Mind and Nervousness
The Magnetic Mind will also bring you another important blessing. It relieves you of the tension of trying to give yourself courage, confidence, and other positive traits.
Adopting any new trait builds up tension, especially if it is based upon nothing specific. This is the reason so many people read self-help books, listen to self-help audio, and never achieve any real improvement. You cannot acquire confidence in being charming, for example, merely by assuming a confident manner.
Confidence is the end product of a mastered skill. Blind confidence is of little value because sooner or later you are jolted out of it by failure in performance. The same is true of courage and other positive mental attitudes. It is no different with negative mental traits like general lack of confidence or courage. These evolve from the failures that abound when you try to learn a new skill.
Never assume hastily that you cannot do something right just because you did it wrong before. But neither should you assume a “can do it” attitude about any skill unless you can do it right.
If you are ever ignored after attempting to use the Magnetic Mind, when you see the person in the future ignore them as you would a piece of debris in the street.
Don’t drain yourself of mental vitality as you approach him and end up regretting the encounter for the rest of the day. These types of people are hopeless. They antagonize others and receive their negative thoughts in return. If you adopt a bitter attitude towards him, it will subconsciously creep into your dealings with others, and you will lose your magnetism with them.
The Magnetic Mind and Self-Consciousness
The Magnetic Mind destroys self-consciousness. You are self-conscious when you doubt your ability to please or control others. You are not self-conscious when you are alone with a pet that you don’t worry about pleasing.
When self-conscious, you not only waste your mind power in needless worry about your ability to please others, but you also can’t put your best foot forward with them. There are understanding people who can still like you if you are self-conscious once they know you well, but if you associate with them only now and then, they could misinterpret your self-consciousness and regard you as selfish and arrogant.
The Magnetic Mind and Nervousness
The Magnetic Mind will also bring you another important blessing. It relieves you of the tension of trying to give yourself courage, confidence, and other positive traits.
Adopting any new trait builds up tension, especially if it is based upon nothing specific. This is the reason so many people read self-help books, listen to self-help audio, and never achieve any real improvement. You cannot acquire confidence in being charming, for example, merely by assuming a confident manner.
Confidence is the end product of a mastered skill. Blind confidence is of little value because sooner or later you are jolted out of it by failure in performance. The same is true of courage and other positive mental attitudes. It is no different with negative mental traits like general lack of confidence or courage. These evolve from the failures that abound when you try to learn a new skill.
Never assume hastily that you cannot do something right just because you did it wrong before. But neither should you assume a “can do it” attitude about any skill unless you can do it right.
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